Rough sex, also known as a kink or BDSM (Bondage-Discipline-Domination, Sadism-Masochism), is a popular sexual experience that can be fun and exciting for all. But what is it about rough sex that makes people like it?
It’s important to remember that while hardcore sex can be satisfying, it should always be consensual. This means setting clear boundaries, using protection, and checking in with partners throughout the experience.
1. It’s a way to express aggression
For a long time, it was not safe for gay men to enter into committed relationships. As a result, they often felt the need to express their aggression in other ways. That’s why many of them turned to hardcore sex.
A number of research studies have documented that a substantial percentage of men who view homosexual erotic art report being aggressive toward gay men (Franklin, 2000; Herek, 1986; Kite and Whitley, 1998). These researchers have argued that aggression toward sexual minorities serves several functions: it enforces gender role norms, affirms one’s heterosexuality and masculinity, and alleviates the stress associated with perceived threats to traditional male roles.
It’s also worth noting that a lot of gay sex is fetish-based. This is because many gay men have issues outside of their sex lives that need to be addressed through sex. For instance, some may feel estranged from their fathers and need to have daddy-son role-playing sex. Others may have issues with self-esteem and need to feel like they are in control of their own bodies through submissive sex.
2. It’s a way to let go of inhibitions
The adrenaline rush that can come with rough sex can help to loosen inhibitions. This can lead to deeper orgasms, more intense sensations, and a more rapid climax. Having a trusted partner to lean on can make these experiences even more enjoyable and safe.
Rough sex can be a great way to let go of inhibitions, but it’s important to remember that sexual activity is not without risk. Regular STI testing and open communication between partners are essential. It’s also a good idea to have a safeword in place that can be used during rough sex to signal when you want the action to stop.
Many people love hardcore sex because it’s an exciting way to explore their kinks and fetishes. However, if you’re new to this type of sex, it’s best to start slow with hair pulling, gentle biting and bondage to see what you’re comfortable with. BDSM is not for everyone. It can be extremely painful, especially if you are not used to it.
3. It’s a way to get turned on
Gay men love hardcore sex because it turns them on. What is considered hardcore sex varies widely from person to person, and may include oral and anal sex, masturbation, or enemas. It can also involve aggressive sex or fetish play and may be referred to as BDSM.
Some of these kinks can be dangerous if not done properly, so it’s important to know your limits and discuss them with your partner before trying them out. It’s also helpful to have a safe word or signal in place to use if you want to stop an activity in the middle of it.
Getting kinky in bed can be a great way to get turned on and add some excitement to your relationship. However, it’s important to remember that shame is not a part of sex and should be left at the door, even when exploring new sexual kinks. If you’re interested in adding some spice to your sex life, consider trying out some of these common and uncommon gay kinks.
4. It’s a way to get down and dirty
Getting down and dirty can be an extremely intimate experience. Many people conflate the term ‘hardcore sex’ with the concept of making love. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it’s important to know the difference between the two and to be clear about your personal boundaries and preferences with your sexual partners.
Many gay men enjoy hardcore sex because it gives them an outlet for their physical and emotional needs. They may also enjoy the fact that it’s a way to express their aggression and sexual power. Whatever the reason, it’s important to remember that all sex should be consensual. This means prioritizing communication and protection, including using lubrication. It’s also important to always use safe practices when engaging in any sexual activity. Remember that it’s possible to have a fulfilling and exciting sexual life without ever having anal sex. In fact, for some, anal sex can be more painful than fun. That’s why it’s so important to find a style of sex that turns you on.